Recently, a friend of mine approached me and asked if I would help her with her MCAT studying. She would be a non-traditional med school applicant after taking a few years post pre-med to do great and wonderful things, including organizing cancer research at a local academic centre. Because of a few gap years, she felt the need to ACE this standardized test to prove she still has the academic chops to both herself and prospective medical schools. Immediately, I froze. Seeing that I've just been pulling myself out of burnout and in the process have heard from so many of my colleagues sharing their own burnout stories with me, I looked at her and thought: Do I have a moral and ethical responsibility to protect you from yourself and your idealism?
Category: Life
When Staying Positive is Actually Hurting You
A recent comment on one of my posts stopped me in my tracks - "Thank you for your positive reflections." Whoa. I don't think I've ever been told I'm a positive person. Like EVER. But, looking back at my recent posts it's true - I have been on a positivity kick for the last 2 months. I could see where people would mistakenly think I'm very zen. Saccharine even. In reality, I actually would avoid that person like the plague if I saw her coming. The overabundance of happiness would be grate on every last nerve. Too much inner peace is just not natural.  Who is this person I've become??
A Valentine’s Day Gram: Questions for My Immigrant Father
Papa, There has been a lot of talk about immigrants on the news lately, which has made me start thinking about your story. And I have a lot of questions. Did you ever dare to dream within one generation, you'd move from being a rice paddy farmer to your daughter being a doctor? When you looked through the half built thatched roof next to your paddy, how did you have the audacity to reach so high?
Exploring Semi-Retirement at the Ripe Old Age of 32
Welcome to semi-retirement After my burnout epiphany, I made the decision to cut back on work at the end of 2017. I knew what I was doing wasn't sustainable, so it was time to take charge. The overachiever that I am, I had it all planned out - I was going to take every other Wednesday off, starting February 14th, Valentine's day. What a great act of self love! I would transition into semi-retirement - down to an average of 40 hours a week from 55-60. It was going to be amazing... in 6 weeks. ...
The Struggles of a Childless Pediatrician
Today, on this Saturday morning, I drove into the hospital to do one of my favourite parts of my job: Newborn rounds. As I was oohing and aahing at this beautiful new baby's full head of hair, mom smiled at me and asked, "Do you have kids?" "No, not yet," I replied with my usual canned response. "Oh." The dynamic in the room quickly changed.
When the Doctor Becomes the Patient: My Brush with Death
Most people in their 20's and 30's assume they're going to wake up tomorrow. They believe they'll get to make good on their plans a few weeks, months and even years from now. Death is a thing that happens to old people, therefore, they have plenty of time to worry about that later. Not for me. Death is a constant companion of mine. ...
When Being an Overachiever is Ruining Your Life
Everyone has that one friend who's just winning at life. The one who has all their stuff together - the perfect job, the Pinterest worthy home, chairs some impressive committee and yet still finds time to volunteer at the local shelter. They glide through life with ease and grace - no word is ever misspoken, nothing is ever out of place and you're pretty sure they are part of the gorgeous I woke up like this tribe. Recently, I realized I'm that friend for some people. And quite honestly, that horrified me so much I was inspired to drop some knowledge here.
A Millennial Doctor’s Burnout – Why now?
After I posted my burnout story, I was dumbfounded by how many people reached out to me. People who I hadn't spoken to in years, all of them telling me the same thing: "I'm burned out too. And I thought it was just me. Thank you for sharing your story."
A Millennial Doctor’s Burnout – Part Two
It's time for a mindshift - what will I gain by working less? What material/costly things can I let go of in order for me to get my life back? Am I really allocating my time and money to the things that are important to me, or am I devoting my resources to things that help me put blinders on to a bad situation for a time? What would you gain with less? ...
A Millennial Doctor’s Burnout – Part One
People like me are at high risk for burnout. Type A personality? ✓ Perfectionist?  ✓ Healthcare professional?  ✓ Too stubborn to admit you're struggling/ask for help?  ✓ I was pretty much doomed from day one. ...